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The Paradox of Choice

In only the last century, choice was severely restricted compared to now. You had one choice for many things: telephone, internet, TV, school, career, and countless others. People typically didn’t leave the place in which they grew up unless there was a very serious reason to do so. In a lot of ways, life was simpler. Few people were paralyzed by the overabundance of choice. The path for many people’s lives was relatively clear, as their options were limited.

Now, we live in a world that is rife with choice. With each passing day, an uncountable multitude of choices are added to everything you can think of: new products are released, new stocks are introduced, new retirement plans are made available, new technologies emerge, new people are made, and with all of what the age of information brings, the overall chaos of the world increases.

There are certainly measurable benefits to this. With the constant competition of technology and medicine, we are seeing a marked increase of the quality and availability of products, some of which save lives. We now have more options from which to choose how to live our lives. In many ways, this is a fantastic boon to optimizing our individuality. Nowadays, you are rarely forced into a choice. Instead, you have several options and you are free to choose which path to follow.

By the same token, the consequences of your choices now burden you far heavier as they rest on your shoulders. Because the choice is no longer being made for you, you decide the choice and accept its subsequent consequences. For a lot of people, if or when a choice is finally made, the decision is regretted. After all, one of the other countless options would no doubt be superior. Forty years ago, we may not have had the choice and thus the consequences of our choices were perceived as a part of life with few or no alternatives. Now, however, we make our choices and we alone are responsible for the outcomes.

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Habituate Concerted Thinking

Make a habit of devoting time towards concerted thinking.

Generally, intentional and mindful critical thinking is a very under-utilized undertaking. It’s true that some great things have arisen extemporaneously. However, most amazing creations are contrived in exacting detail as a result of many hours of intentional thought.

You’re not an inventor—what do you care? Well, you’re more of an inventor than you think. You create your world. If you don’t think deeply about yourself, the people around you, your past, and your future, what lessons will you learn? What useful information will you retain and utilize to better your future? It’s likely not much if you aren’t putting in the time to think things through.

There are a few issues that require clarification.

Every person has a different place and mindset for optimized thinking. Some people think best alone and isolated, some think best while engaged in physical activity, and some—like myself—think best while communicating with others. The solution: identify the situation that is most conducive to productive thought for you and think there.
If your thoughts are only in your head, they need to be said aloud. The spoken word is far more powerful than the thought-of word, especially because you’re not necessarily the force behind your thoughts. You are, however, the one who puts your thoughts into words. Speak your thoughts, even if you’re alone.
If you are alone, this poses another issue. Even if you’re having a whole conversation with yourself, there’s no sanity check (no, I’m not referring to the fact that people—if they were to hear you—would think you crazy). You need something or someone to assist you in listening by conversing with you to rationalize your ideas. Your thoughts have a lot more power when put into words, but they’re not fully complete until they’re heard by another person, weighed, and rationalized.

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I Fractured My Finger

I fractured my finger.

If you’re about to start feeling bad for me—don’t. I injured myself in about the stupidest way you can imagine, and now I’m living with the well-deserved consequences.

To be fair, this didn’t happen yesterday. This happened in December of 2025 (four months ago from the time that I’m writing this). I gave myself time to heal and I decided to make a concerted effort to see what I could learn from this situation. Of course, I already knew that smacking a wall is not a good idea, but what other less-obvious lessons could I learn from the experience?

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One Is Not Zero

One Is Not Zero.

Common sense, right?
1 ≠ 0.

We all know this, so what do I mean when I bring up this blatantly obvious point? Let’s contextualize this.

Think about productivity. Whenever you’re building a habit, learning a language, going to the gym, doing homework, or telling your family you love them—doing it one time is a lot more than doing it zero times.

It can be overwhelming when you have free time and are faced with a seemingly-infinite set of potential actions. What should you do? Start with one thing, because doing one thing is infinitely better than being paralyzed into doing nothing. Life is overwhelming, but take it one step at a time. One step in the right direction is all you need.

This concept is true with incremental productivity activities such as the ones previously listed, and of course compounds with every iteration. “One Is Not Zero” is even more true when faced with larger principles.

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Retrospective Regret

“Live each day like it’s your last.”

We’ve all heard this advice at least once in our lives. This is horrible advice. The idea behind it is not to waste your life on boring, mundane things, but to “live” life to the fullest. This idea does have some value, but the notion that you should live each day like you’re going to die tomorrow is unsustainable.

Let’s entertain this philosophy for a minute: okay, this is the last day on Earth. Well, I’m certainly not going to work or school. I’m not going to do anything healthy for myself or others, and I won’t be making any investments for my future.

If today were the last day on Earth, I would blow through my savings, liquidate all of my assets and investments, and generally ruin life for Future Brian.

The point is this: if you lived even one day like it’s your last, it would take decades to recover from the damage it would do—if that’s even possible. I’m even being conservative and keeping it mild.

If everyone lived each day like it was their last, the earth would be filled with chaos: rape, murder, fights, theft, and all manner of debauchery.

Why bother entertaining advice or idioms that, if implemented, would ruin your life—or all of humanity if followed on a mass scale?

Now, let’s extract the valuable lesson embedded in this idiotic saying and apply it into something actionable and healthy. I’ve contrived an epithet for this philosophy:

Retrospective Regret.

(I am not claiming to have thought up this idea; I’ve probably never had a unique thought in my life, but I am going to put this philosophy into words, followed by actionability).

You’ve probably heard stories of an elderly or terminally ill person lying on their deathbed. They’re asked, “do you have any regrets?” or, “what do you wish you could do more [now that it’s too late]?”

Typically, the answer is something like “I wish I could have spent more time with my family; I wish I could have hugged my son one last time; I wish I had spent less time at the office,” and other regrets that they now have in retrospect.

This is Retrospective Regret. In retrospect, you regret something.

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Who Is Brian?

Who Is Brian?

I’m Brian Bagrov, and I made Brian’s Blog to promulgate the culmination of what I’ve learned in my 27 years. My intent is to document my thoughts and findings for anyone who cares to listen.
Why Should We Listen to a 27-Year-Old?
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I may, perhaps, potentially, possibly know more than the average 27-year-old, but that’s certainly not enough time to gain a lifetime of wisdom. Why listen to me?

Well, it’s not about listening to me. I’m not here to instruct you or to coach you. I’m not a guru or a charismatic leader of man. My goal is to learn, and I believe I’ve learned valuable lessons during my life. Some I’ve learned from first-hand experience and some by synthesizing second- and third-hand experience.

There is a ridiculous amount of information out there, and it is certainly overwhelming. It’s important to be open to learning and accepting new information without being inundated and paralyzed. This is where I may be able to help. I’m not telling you what I know; I endeavor to relate experience and knowledge in a digestible and applicable format. Knowledge is great, but what’s the point if you can’t use it? I like being able to apply knowledge in order to improve my life and the life of those around me.

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